HIV positive Nairobi woman explains how father of her 2 children avoided being infected
Phenny Awiti’s life took a turn when she was in form two at Asumbi Girls’ High School in 2008, at that time she was just 16 years old with no sexual partner and the thought that she could be positive did not ever cross her mind. “HIV positive Nairobi woman explains how father of her 2 children avoided being infected“.
– Phenny realised she was HIV positive when she was 16 years old in form two
– She met her ex-husband who was satisfied with the fact that people can be intimate and not get infected
– Later after her second child, her man became unfaithful and she feared he have unprotected sex with someone positive and re-infect her
– Throughout her three year marriage, they had unprotected sex
In a country where people who are HIV positive have to endure a lot of stigma the moment they make their status public, one woman who contracted the disease is using her status to change the perception.
The lady who is now involved in many projects made her HIV/Aids status known in 2017, on social media and revealed she was born with the disease.
She met a number of men most of whom were not satisfied with the fact that people can be intimate and not get infected.
Phenny finally met the father of her two beautiful girls and like any other man, she disclosed to him her status and he was okay with it at first but later changed his mind, dumping her for another woman.
She said: “He was HIV negative, I was HIV positive, I never infected him, he is still negative up to today.”
In an interview with TUKO.co.ke, Phenny at her Nairobi house on Friday, August 10, the mother of two opened up on what has been a journey of battling with discrimination.
The HIV/Aids activist recounted an organization initiating blood drive donation had visited the school in second term and she gladly donated just like any other student not knowing her HIV status.
Another organization again visited in third term, this time, she remembered they were given soda and loaves of bread as an enticement to test their HIV status.
It was an amazing opportunity to have free loaf and soda all to herself, she thought.
She said: “At the back of my mind I just needed the bread and soda. Barely after five minutes, one counselor asked whether I had any boyfriend and I said no. She then handed me my kit. It had a double line. I was positive.”
After going through counselling, traumatized and lost, Phenny dashed to her best friend’s dormitory and disclosed her status marking the beginning of troubles in school.
Though she maintained her friend was very supportive, four days later, her condition had become a matter of public knowledge and the whole school knew about it.
She narrated: “After four days, I went to serve food in the dinning hall, when I stepped inside, I saw a group of girls in a deep conversation. Then all of a sudden I overheard one of them say that is why she is so fat, she takes those drugs.”
On that particular night, her best friend asked her to return every stuff had from her and then withdrew completely from Phenny fearing she would infect her.
But how did she deal with men wanting to date her?
“Any guy who would hit on me, I would tell him I am HIV positive. I would not lie to any person.”